Think back to the last time you were told you didn’t hear or see what you thought you did and it left questioning your sanity. If you have experienced this, chances are you are dealing with a toxic person.

 

In this episode, we examine how prevalent gaslighting is and what you can do for stress relief and to restore your emotional resilience.

 

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

 

⭐ Why gaslighting is more than just a personal relationship issue

⭐ What the Temperance tarot card represents and why it may not be serving you

⭐ Conditions where gaslighting thrives

⭐ How Ulextie can help you cut through emotional confusion

⭐ Ritual to reflect deception back to its source

 

Listen now to see through these patterns and shift the power dynamics in your life.

 

00:00 Introduction to the Crystal Self Healer Podcast

00:40 Understanding Manipulation and Gaslighting

01:41 Exploring the Symbolism of Temperance

02:48 The Widespread Impact of Gaslighting

04:46 Counteracting Gaslighting with Self-Worth

07:31 Using Ulexite to Combat Gaslighting

09:09 A Ritual to Release Gaslighting

10:28 Join the Charmed Community

11:49 Conclusion and Next Steps

 

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Episode #66 – Dealing with a TOXIC Person

Introduction to the Crystal Self Healer Podcast

Welcome to the Crystal Self Healer podcast. I’m Corissa Weaver. On this podcast, we blend the magic of crystals with the science of psychology to help you break free from chaos, ditch the overwhelm, and master your emotions so you can have more energy, get more done and feel better every day. Get ready to unlock your intuition and restore your true power as we cover how you can transform your life using crystals and self-awareness.

Are you ready to get started? Alright, let’s go.

Understanding Manipulation and Gaslighting

Did you know that 100% of women experience some form of manipulation at some point in their life?

Not because women are weak, but because manipulation thrives where power is imbalanced, and women have been systemically denied power.

Where I find this really fascinating is in the prevalence of gaslighting which involves tactics like misdirection, denial, lying, and contradiction to destabilize the recipient.

You know when you are led to doubt your own knowledge or perceptions and defer to someone else even when you know different.

If you’ve been questioning your own sanity recently, you are not alone. In this episode, we are going to explore dealing with a toxic person in your life and how you can break the cycle to reclaim emotional and mental peace.

Exploring the Symbolism of Temperance

When the card we’re going to look at today showed up in a crystal and tarot forecast inside the Charmed Community, there was no messing around with the symbolism. This card, in the what to release position, popped out of the deck and landed on the little trash can I keep in my office.

So what is it we are being called to release: Temperance.

When you initially look at the card and contemplate the title, what probably comes to mind for you is the concept of being polite and balanced and meek. You know, embracing the energy of peacemaking or softening the blow of what is going on around you.

And yes, while Temperance is about negotiations and striking balance, when it comes up in the what to release placement, it’s kind of suggesting that this is the opposite of what you’re being called to do.

When it comes to being the recipient of gaslighting, striving for temperance may not be your best course of action.

The Widespread Impact of Gaslighting

Gaslighting, a not widely studied phenomenon is widespread within our society. When researching for this episode, I was amazed that the research on this behavior is limited to domestic violence, and very loosely at that.

What is beginning to emerge is a growing body of work around narcissistic abuse, which often includes gaslighting as a tactic.

But even that research remains primarily focused on personal relationships, particularly romantic or familial ones.

The problem is, this narrow lens misses the much larger picture.

Gaslighting is not just something that happens behind closed doors; it’s woven into societal structures, institutions, and public discourse.

We have little to no formal study on how these manipulative patterns show up in politics, media, medicine, religion, or education, where the impact can be just as insidious, if not more.

And yet it is all around you.

All of this gaslighting is meant to keep you lost, confused, exhausted, and believing that there is something blocking you from realizing the dream you have for yourself.

And as supported by the research Hasher et al, repeated statements are more likely to be judged as true even when they are false.

As someone who second guesses yourself, you naturally consider other perspectives making room for the reality they want to paint for you.

Your desire to understand and be helpful allows the gaslight to set themself up as a misunderstood victim.

By wanting to avoid conflict, your instinct is to keep the peace which allows for more dominant voices to take charge.

Counteracting Gaslighting with Self-Worth

The best way to counteract gaslighting is to know your worth and trust in your knowledge.

I don’t care how smart someone is, no one knows everything. Just because someone knows something different than you doesn’t diminish what you know.

Here’s the insidiousness of gaslighting.

By growing up in a system of education that had you holding out for the validation of your teacher to show you how much you know, you have been primed to allow for this to happen.

The marks on your projects, tests, and report cards were the objective measurement of that.

You just may be that person who carries shame and guilt because you didn’t have that coveted 4.0 GPA or that 1400 SAT or that ivy league education.

And I have to share the funniest thing, even autocorrect is in on this because as I was typing ivy league in my notes, it capitalized the words further ingraining the implied and inferred value of these institutions.

If we zoom out of this academic microcosm, we see this as merely one measurement of knowledge, and by far not the be all, end all method.

Now, I would be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge that to change all of this overnight is more easily said than done.

Gaslighting happens over time, and as such can become deeply ingrained thought patterns and behaviors, and for that reason may take time to shift to more healthy ones.

The secret that has been hidden from you is not so obscure. This is something you get to decide to do for yourself.

You certainly can learn to have your own back when it comes to asserting your knowledge, your worth, and your experience.

And you start this by giving equal time to what you know to be true.

Your brain has a tendency to favor familiarity and ease of processing, so of course it feels hard and cumbersome to shift the narrative of your thoughts.

But the more you shift away from the internalized micro-aggression caused by gaslighting, you build the stability upon which you can flourish.

And while the Gaslight wants to portray themselves as a victim, let them hold onto that victim’s story if they need to. You have a life to live. One that is rooted in truth, not distortion.

Using Ulexite to Combat Gaslighting

When you’re dealing with a gaslighter, I’m going to offer Ulexite as a supportive crystal, and here’s why.

The confusion you feel when dealing with a gaslighter is tactical and Ulexite helps you spot the repetition. When you are struggling to identify what’s happening, or emotionally drained because of the dynamic, Ulexite will keep you from getting swept up in the emotional fog, so you can clearly see the tactics at work.

Gaslighting thrives on confusion. Ulexite cuts through the noise. It helps you see beyond the surface of how you’re being controlled and manipulated so you can uncover the false narratives designed to make you doubt yourself.

One of the most damaging effects of gaslighting is the erosion of confidence in your own knowledge and experience. Ulexite supports you in anchoring back into the reality of your lived truth, amplifying your logic and intuition without distortion.

The one thing a gaslighter doesn’t want is for you to stop questioning yourself, because that’s when the dynamic begins to crumble. When you stop playing by their rules and start taking back your power, your autonomy, and your personal sovereignty. Ulexite supports you to stand firmly in what you see and know, so their tactics fall flat and you can walk away recognizing that they don’t deserve your focus or your energy.

A Ritual to Release Gaslighting

So here’s a little ritual you can do to mirror the deception back to its source and release its grip on you.

You’ll need Ulexite, two mirrors and a piece of paper.

Start by setting the two mirrors facing each other with a small gap between them.

On the piece of paper, write the name of the person who is responsible for the gaslighting.

Place the piece of paper between the two mirrors.

Then hold your Ulexite as you focus on your breath, settling into the present moment.

Allow the Ulexite to illuminate and show you the deception that has been directed toward you.

Visualize the hold it has on you and unravel and return it to its source.

Imagine the source between the mirrors having to face themselves and their actions without the ability to escape their reflections.

Next, visualize the energy of the Ulexite surrounding you in a protective barrier, allowing you to see future manipulation and offering a clear view of the bologna being dished out.

When you feel a sense of completeness, place the Ulexite on your altar or carry it with you throughout the day.

Join the Charmed Community

Today’s pairing of Temperance with Ulexite is from a recent crystal and tarot forecast inside the Charmed Community. I invite you to join me in this free space where I share these readings weekly to help you align your energy and focus your week. You’ll also connect with others who are exploring their growth and creating change in their lives just like you.

Join us for free, the link is in the show notes.

And if you’re tired of being on an emotional rollercoaster, constantly juggling everything in your life, and you want to be part of a space that holds you in your healing, a space where you can feel seen, supported, and connected, I’d love to have you join me inside the Crystal Self Healer members portal.

It’s where we go beyond the weekly guidance and apply it to your life, equipping you with the tools, resources, and support to build your self-confidence in crystal healing and emotional self-care.

Inside you’ll find personalized coaching, healing sessions, rituals, and everything you need to truly empower yourself to live with more ease and alignment.

Visit my website, www.threecharmedgems.com or click the link in the show notes to learn more and join me.

Conclusion and Next Steps

Today’s episode has been brought to you by Temperance, Ulexite, and gaslighting. May we all see through the patterns and tactics used to rewrite narratives so we can live our story fully, within her story. Blessed be, my friends.

All right, my friends, that wraps up this week’s episode. Thank you for joining me here today on the Crystal Self Healer Podcast. If you haven’t already, hit subscribe, leave a review and take the what Crystal is best for you. Quiz linked in the show notes. Join me again next week as we continue to demystify crystals, how your brain works and how you can use them so you can have more energy, get more done, and feel better every day.