The most grounded people in life aren’t free from pressure, expectations, or obligations – they’ve simply learned how to stand firm in their truth despite them. They know how to set boundaries, let go of inherited stress, and make choices that truly align with who they are. And you can do that when you ground your energy with crystals.

If you’re ready to stop living under the weight of other people’s expectations and start honoring your own needs and values, this episode is for you. You’ll discover how to release obligations that don’t serve you, reclaim your personal agency, and set boundaries that protect your energy and focus.

Living a grounded, aligned life takes courage and clarity, and this episode will show you how to create both.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

🗝️ What grounding truly means and how it can align you with your personal truth.

🗝️ How inherited expectations and unspoken obligations create stress and misalignment.

🗝️ How to release outdated traditions and obligations that no longer serve you.

🗝️ The role boundaries play in reclaiming your energy and focus.

🗝️ How to step into personal agency and make choices that honor your values.

Releasing expectations is liberating, and if you’re ready to stop feeling weighed down by pressure and start aligning your life with what truly matters to you, this episode offers the tools to take that empowering first step.

Listen now and start to ground your energy with crystals!

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Episode #46 – Ground Your Energy with Crystals

Welcome to the Crystal Self Healer Podcast. I’m Corissa Weaver. On this podcast, we blend the magic of crystals with the science of psychology to help you break free from chaos, ditch the overwhelm, and master your emotions so you can have more energy, get more done, and feel better every day. Get ready to unlock your intuition and restore your true power as we cover how you can transform your life using crystals and self awareness.

Are you ready to get started? All right, let’s go.

When life gets hectic, schedules are packed and people place demands on your time, it can feel overwhelming. The best thing you can do in those moments is ground yourself.

I don’t know about you, but just thinking about the holiday season can make my stomach tighten.

As a child, I adored the holiday season, the hustle and bustle, the decorations, the family and friends getting together, this sparkle in the air.

But as an adult being the one who is responsible for making all the magic happen for everyone else, it started to feel like a heavy burden.

Being responsible for creating joy for everyone else became exhausting. Competing demands for my time and attention, the pressure to show up everywhere and the need to manage everyone’s experience left me feeling depleted.

If you’ve ever found yourself stretched thin, trying to meet expectations, or like you’re the cruise director for everyone else, this episode is for you.

We’re going to dive into how you can ground your energy with crystals. So you can stay centered and calm no matter what life brings. I’ll share a process for letting go of obligations that don’t serve you so you can stand in your truth.

In episode 44, we talked about emotional exhaustion, and while it comes in here today, this episode takes a slightly different focus. Today, we’re going to be looking at expectations we think others hold for us, the rules we unknowingly followed that creates stress, angst, pressure and ultimately sucks the happiness out of the things that we might otherwise enjoy, like the holidays.

So many of my clients come to me when they are at wit’s end because they can’t figure out why they feel so miserable, especially when they’re trying so hard to do everything right. Most of them are doing what was modeled for them in their childhood: traditions, rules, and obligations observed and adopted from their parents, relatives, or their community.

Many of them have an awareness that they don’t really want to do the same things that they experienced in childhood, but they aren’t in the habit of questioning the traditions they practice or the rules they’re following. They’re stuck in a cycle that doesn’t feel like their own.

The holidays amplify this tension. They’re packed with expectations, most of them unspoken, that pushed the limits of our time, energy, and boundaries. Whether it’s showing up at every gathering, hosting the perfect dinner, or managing the emotions of everyone around us, these obligations can feel endless.

These expectations are deeply rooted, programmed into us long before we had the awareness to decide if they served us. And then when these inherited rules don’t align with who you are as an adult, they create a sense of conflict, or what is called cognitive dissonance. This is the sense of dread when you think about yet another gathering, guilt for not doing enough, or frustration when you feel unseen or unsupported in your efforts.

This discomfort you’re feeling isn’t a flaw in you: it’s a sign that something needs to shift.

So much of this struggle comes from a lack of alignment. We’re following rules we didn’t choose, upholding traditions that no longer feel meaningful. And because these patterns have been with us for so long we don’t often stop to question them. Instead, we push through hoping for a moment of relief that rarely comes.

I’ll never forget the Christmas. I decided to stop being the person responsible for everyone else’s happiness. My kids were old enough to decorate the tree. My husband is a capable adult who could take on some of the planning and hosting. I thought this is the year I stepped back and let everyone else contribute.

The kids started decorating the tree, but quickly lost interest. My husband didn’t make plans, didn’t help decorate, and didn’t offer to coordinate anything. What followed was one of the most lackluster holidays we’ve ever had.

And you know what? It was uncomfortable. My mind kept telling me to fix it. To make it magical again, to ensure that everyone else felt the joy I was so used to creating for them. But you’ll recollect in episode 36, I shared that some of the best advice I’ve ever been given is when I was told it was not my job to be the cruise director. So in this instance, I stayed firm, reminding myself that I wasn’t doing this to spite anyone. I was doing it because I wasn’t happy.

This experience taught me something profound. There’s nothing wrong with participating in traditions, decorating the tree, preparing meals, hosting gatherings, if those things bring you joy. But I had been shouldering the responsibility for everyone else’s experience and it wasn’t just exhausting. It was unsustainable.

The truth is, many of us take on these roles without realizing it. We feel like it’s our job to make sure everyone else is happy, even at the expense of our own wellbeing. We put so much pressure on ourselves to maintain traditions and meet expectations, even when those things no longer align with who we are or how we want to live.

The discomfort of letting go can feel overwhelming at first. That Christmas, I spent a lot of time sitting with my own unease, questioning whether I was doing the right thing. But I also started to see how much of the stress and pressure I’d been feeling came from unspoken rules. Rules no one else in my household even cared about.

Now, nearly a decade later, we still put up the tree, but it doesn’t get decorated unless someone else takes the initiative. And you know what? That’s okay. It’s not about being perfect or living up to some external standard: it’s about honoring what feels right for me.

This process of stepping back isn’t easy. You might worry about disappointing others or fear the reactions you’ll get when you set boundaries. But here’s what I’ve learned: most of the time, the people around you are far less concerned about these things than you think.

The real challenge is quieting that inner voice, the one that tells you it’s your job to keep everything running smoothly. The more you release that responsibility, the more grounded you’ll feel ,and the easier it will become to focus on what truly matters.

In order to create this life that truly honored my own needs, I had to go through a sort of deconstruction. A process of sorting out what was creating my discomfort, deciding what I wanted to keep, establishing boundaries and standing in my agency. At first, it felt overwhelming, I was untangling a knot I had spent years tightening. But as I went through the process, I realized that every thing I unraveled brought unexpected relief, a comfort I hadn’t known was possible.

I had to get honest with myself about the weight of inherited expectations, those deeply held, sometimes unrecognized rules that were dictating how I showed up in my relationships and obligations. As I examined them, it became clear that much of my discomfort wasn’t about what I wanted, but about the fear I held around disappointing others.

Letting go of just one small expectation, at tradition I had upheld for years despite my desire for something other, was a turning point. When I started to release these expectations I started to feel the tension in my chest lifting. I was giving myself permission to let go and open up space for ease that I hadn’t experienced for years.

The next step was deciding what I valued enough to keep. This part was harder than I expected because it wasn’t just about saying yes or no, it was about reconnecting with what truly brought me joy. At first I struggled with guilt, but as I chose to focus on what made me feel grounded, the absence of resistance, the guilt began to fade. I could start to prioritize things that were meaningful to me, things that left me feeling calm and steady, rather than frazzled and depleted or broke.

Then came the work of boundaries, and this stage was messy. Saying no felt unnatural and uncomfortable, but it was also liberating. That first time you say no to something and get met with indifference will surprise you as well as provide confirmation that you’ve been carrying the burden of obligations no one else has asked you to. When I experienced this, it gave a whole new sense of security, giving me the anchor that I could trust myself to set limits and survive the consequences.

You won’t always be met with indifference when you start to say no, and that’s what keeps this work an ongoing process. But the more you do it, the more you learn you can trust your decisions, your judgment, and that it’s okay to say no when you really need to, the easier and more natural it will feel.

Standing in my agency was the final step, and this required courage. It wasn’t about just saying no, but about starting to say yes to myself, to the life I wanted to create, the way I wanted to feel about things. I had to learn to be okay with the discontent of other people. Not in a cold or uncaring way, but in a way that honored my limits and choices.

For the first time I started to feel free of the constant need to monitor how others were responding to me. I didn’t need to measure my worth against their reactions anymore. And that freedom was grounding in a way I didn’t know I needed.

I realized that grounding wasn’t just about calm moments or quiet practices, it was about alignment. It was about shedding what didn’t serve me, holding onto what did, and walking through the discomfort or change with my feelings planted firmly in my truth. Each step brought clarity and stability, making me feel not only lighter, but more rooted in who I was.

It’s not a perfect process, and there are still moments when the old habits resurface. But each time I choose to step into this new way of being, I reclaim a little more peace and self-trust. That is the grounding, the steady, quiet assurance that I am enough, that I am capable, and that I deserve to stand in a space that feels like my own.

It’s not about fixing what’s wrong, it’s about uncovering what’s true. It’s about finding your way back to yourself, peeling away the layers of expectations, and the rules you never agreed to, and standing in the simple, profound truth of who you are and the beautiful life you deserve.

So today I’m going to be offering Malachite as a suitable crystal to work with.

Malachite is helpful for grounding as it will help you identify the steps necessary to bring your dreams, wishes, and visions into your reality. It helps you connect with your inner strength helping you feel rooted, allowing you to choose joy and authenticity over obligation.

Malachite will reveal energetic and emotional boundaries and helps you honor them. It helps you cultivate the courage to say no when something doesn’t serve you.

Malachite will also help you clear through the fog of emotional confusion that has prevented you from making conscious choices that align more with the sense of peace and grounding you seek.

Malachite will also support you in standing in your agency, even if you feel fear because of past experiences with conflict and confrontation. It acts as a stabilizing force, helping you stay grounded in your truth while navigating the emotional layers of releasing the rules and expectations that you want to release.

If you want to release old patterns and start living in alignment with what truly feels right for you, I invite you to join the Crystal Self Healer member’s portal.

Each month we gather for collective crystal healing sessions designed to support themes like letting go of outdated beliefs, finding peace in challenging transitions and stepping forward with clarity and compassion.

Inside the portal, you’ll find guided workbooks and worksheets to help you dig into and shift the beliefs and emotions we’ve talked about today. These tools are designed to meet you where you are, empowering you to work through personal and generational pain at your own pace.

And for those moments when you need a little extra support you’ll have access to one-to-one guidance to help you navigate what’s coming up for you, so you never have to feel stuck or overwhelmed.

The Crystal Self Healer member’s portal is your space to create lasting transformation with the support, resources, and community you need. If this feels like the next step for you, head to my website at threecharmedgems.com or click the link in the show notes to join today. I can’t wait to welcome you inside.

Today’s episode has been brought to you by Malachite and deconstruction. May we all find the strength to stand in our truth and ground ourselves in peace. Blessed be, my friends.

All right, my friends, that wraps up this week’s episode. Thank you for joining me here today on the Crystal Self Healer Podcast. If you haven’t already, hit subscribe, leave a review, and take the What Crystal is Best for You quiz linked in the show notes. Join me again next week as we continue to demystify crystals, how your brain works, and how you can use them so you can have more energy, get more done, and feel better every day.